Making Progress

As you might already know, I'm getting divorced.  It's been a challenging situation.  No matter how much you agree to work together in all of this, things will always be challenging.  If they weren't, then why would you be getting divorced at all, right?

Well, I feel the need to share a shocking event in this whole divorce.  Now, I will warn you, if you known divorce, have been divorced, or have friends who have gone through divorce, this may be hard to believe.  This is so far outside the realm of a normal divorce that this could easily give you heart failure.  We had a civilized conversation and worked everything out without a problem...

Yes, I know, it's hard to believe, especially if you know the way my husband is.  It's shocking if you know what divorce does to people!  I've been dreading this whole thing.  I've been uncomfortable with the whole process.  Divorce is supposed to be so traumatic, and I just didn't want to deal with it.  There were nothing but fights about child support, car payments, and everything else.  It seemed like I was losing my best friend.

Today things were so much better.  We talked like civilized adults!  He talked to the kids and seemed genuinely interested in what they were saying.  He made some honest and well thought out comments on homeschooling and we came to a reasonable decision.  I think we're both pretty happy with the way things are rolling out.  We even worked out some of the details on affording for the kids to visit him out of state!  I finally feel like I'm getting my best friend back.

Not that long ago I had a friend tell me that divorce is something that only works between two mature and responsible adults.  I'm starting to realize just how true that is.  When things were still tender at the start of all this, we found that it was nothing but complications and trouble.  Now that we're finally starting to talk, even though it is so sterile and business-like, we're finding that this whole process is starting to work out for the best.  I'm incredibly happy with the arrangement we've made and I look forward to being able to bring the kids to visit him for the first time.  It seems like things are going to work out for the best in the end!

So while this is sad because divorce is never easy, I do feel relief that my children will be able to have two parents that can at least talk like reasonable adults.  This may not end so badly after all!