It's been a while since the very dear friend I last lived with and I have talked. The last words between us were kind of difficult, but these things happen in life. Once you live together, it's not always the easiest to part ways in peace. We both learned a lot from each other, and about each other. There were the good times and the bad, but I guess it kind of felt like we'd gone our own separate ways.
You know how it is when friends part, right? We try to keep in contact, but distance, time, living two very separate lives, it all gets in the way. When there was even the slightest bit of negativity between the two of you, it makes it even harder for that distance to grow. I guess that's why I've seen so many friends walk away in my life. It's all to easy to lose touch.
I had really started to miss this friend, and her husband, even though her challenge is sometimes a bit trying to be around. He's got one of those personalities that almost intimidates me. It's not a bad thing, and he's definitely not a bad person. Actually, I love both of them very dearly and it's pained me not to be in touch, but many people would think I'd have no problems writing him off because he can be, well, a bit much to take. Still, I felt like something was missing in my life being so long out of touch.
The other day I got a text from my friend. To be honest, without looking at my messages, I couldn't even tell you what it was about. I think it may have been that we still had stuff at their house? Anyhow, I remembered that I wanted to tell her about a dream someone had told me, because it was her kind of thing. That started up a whole conversation. We were talking again, almost like it was before we moved in. It was wonderful.
Though we had other reasons for it, we had a nice visit yesterday. In theory we were there to pick up some of the stuff that had been left behind. The kids were going to have a chance to play together again, which was great for all of them. Finally, we were going to pick up her snake, Akasha, who she had been looking to rehome. Personally, I think of it more as "extended snake sitting" because I would be happy to send Akasha home any time, but I understand how it is when you no longer have the time to give a pet as much attention as it needs, and Akasha needs a lot of love and attention. Supposedly this was the only reason we were visiting, but if you know good friends, all of that is just an excuse to spend some good, quality time together.
Our visit was wonderful (aside from my friend feeling like her allergies were drowning her!), even though her husband wasn't there. As much as everything's changed so much, there's still that feeling that nothing's changed at all. In so many ways, it was like jumping back into the friendship again. She and I have been exchanging text messages today and it feels like we're back to normal again.
Our families have so many differences that at one time I would have doubted we could even be friends. We have different views on almost everything. Our lifestyles are shockingly different. On the outside, I'm sure many people would think we couldn't mesh so well, never mind being so close we're like family. I think of her as my sister and her husband as, well, that kind of cooky brother-in-law that doesn't quite share that special, close bond of family, but definitely fits in his own way! What can I say, I love them! They're wonderful people, and I'm not only glad I met them, but I didn't realize just how important they were to me until there was some distance. It's one of those things where "you don't know what you've got 'till it's gone." Well, until I didn't feel like I could just text or call any time something made me think of her, or until I could no longer see her all the time, I didn't realize how incredibly special our friendship was. After not talking for nearly a month, I've realized just how much I've missed them, and just how wonderful my friends are.
I guess for some people, one would think this is a friendship never meant to be, but I thank all the powers that be that I've got these two wonderful people as my friends, that I consider their family to be my family, and that we haven't just let everything fall apart. If any of you are reading this, just know that I love you all very much, and I'm so glad we're back to talking again. My life somehow seems lacking without you.
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