Moving Again?

That's right, we're moving again.  I know it seems like I just can't put my feet down for more than a minute before I'm off and running again.  That's kind of how I feel.  It seems like we're in a constant state of change, jumping from one place to the next with reckless abandon.

In truth, it all started with a decision to do what was best for my family.  Had things gone differently, we never would have had a reason to leave the last apartment that would have just been my family.  We would have had some sense of stability, something my whole family really needs.  Unfortunately, for reasons that really aren't necessary to revisit at this stage in my life, that didn't happen.  We moved in with a friend as it would be a temporary situation, at least until we could get our feet on the ground.

As things would have it, that didn't work, and a better opportunity came up.  Then that opportunity didn't work out for it's own reasons, in part because of the great number of people under one roof.  We moved again to a situation that should have been an improvement, but again we're finding this isn't the situation for us.  I'm not going to point fingers or place blame.  No good ever comes of that.  However, we've all just come to realize that we can't live together, for a variety of reasons.  I have to admit, it would be so incredibly easy to go into it all, but the time has come to put the past behind us and look forward to everything coming our way.

Given our situation, there are certain realities we're going to have to face.  We can't afford a beautiful home in a really nice neighborhood.  In truth, we're looking at some of the less desirable neighborhoods, but not necessarily somewhere bad, just less classy.  We're likely going to have to make use of the local laundry facilities as we won't have a washer and dryer.  However, the boys will be able to share a room and my daughter will have her own room again, something that I'm thrilled about.  There should be fewer arguments that way.  I would love to have a place with a big back yard and a garage, but the reality is that's just not in the cards.  Right now what we're able to get is a stable roof over our heads for the next year so we can work on getting our lives in order.  Perhaps in a year's time we can start looking at somewhere nicer that's closer to my partner's work.  If it turns out not to be a terribly bad location, we might even decide to stay and save up until we can move back home or at least into our own house.  Of course, that will mean a lot of repairing damaged credit before then.

In truth, I'm looking forward to this.  I like the idea of it being my family and my home again.  I like knowing I have a place to invite everyone over to play cards.  I don't need to worry about conflicting with something the house mates are doing.  I don't have to worry about anyone but my own family.  If the dishes don't get done, I know they're my family's dishes and I'm the one responsible for them.  It now becomes my choice to do them or not, so if they didn't get done, it's my own fault.  If the floor doesn't get swept, there's no one to complain about it or do something about it but me.  Even better, there's no cat to pee all over everything in the house!  There will just be my family, our rabbit, our snake, and our rat.  Yes, the pets will need to be kept after still, but at least being caged animals restricts their ability to make a mess and damage the place in comparison to a cat or a dog.  I can once again go back to my house and my rules without having to worry about stepping on toes.  There will be no toes to step on aside from my own!

While the idea of moving for yet a fifth time this year makes me want to scream, I'm really happy about it.  I know this will be the last time for a while, possibly for the next couple of years.  This means we're looking at stability, which is something I really feel we need right now.  We'll be in a good solid position to start making a dent in my bad credit and start saving for our future.  Our family needs this right now.  So, while the timing stinks and I'm not looking forward to the work involved, I'm really happy about this change!